Your understanding is correct. Dead time is used in the context of OSPF and hold time is the term used with EIGRP.
show ip eigrp nei will show the corresponding hold time for that particular neighbor. The hold time is set by the neighbor.
See the example below.
This router uses the default hello/hold time of 5/15 seconds. In the first output, the hold time of 11 seconds indicate it has to receive another hello within 11 seconds and if it doesn't then it will clear the neighbor from the EIGRP neighbor table. In the second output (which was taken a second later) a hello packet was received and R3 reset the hold time to 14 seconds.
R3#show ip eigrp nei
IP-EIGRP neighbors for process 1
H Address Interface Hold Uptime SRTT RTO Q Seq
(sec) (ms) Cnt Num
0 192.168.0.1 Fa0/0 11 00:13:58 573 3438 0 1
R3#show ip eigrp nei
IP-EIGRP neighbors for process 1
H Address Interface Hold Uptime SRTT RTO Q Seq
(sec) (ms) Cnt Num
0 192.168.0.1 Fa0/0 14 00:13:59 573 3438 0 1
Hope this helps!
Sundar
