Hi Mark,
Well, off hand I can think of two reasons:
1) You are indeed exceeding the maximum ssl connection-rate. If you issue a 'show resource usage', does it give any indication, that this is happening?
2) You might have hit a bug. What sw-version are you running? Going through the releasenotes, there have been reported some problems concerning
ssl-connections. Try and have a look at the release notes here http://www.cisco.com/en/US/products/ps6906/tsd_products_support_model_home.html
As far as the resource-counter goes, I've never thought of it myself, but I would expect the ace-modules to maintain seperate resource-counters and only display local resource-usage, since it is possible to distribute the load across both modules, when operating in an FT-pair.
Also, are you running ace in multiple context mode and if so, does this problem occur on all contexts or only a single one? If so, it might be a resource-limitation issue.
hth
/Ulrich