Hi Sean,
The answer to question 1 is yes, you can set up back up peers by specifiying it on the crypto map of the remote routers. e.g:
crypto map labmap 10 ipsec-isakmp
set peer 10.0.0.1
set peer 11.0.0.1
set transform-set 3des-sha
match address 100
The router will try to connect first to 10.0.0.1 and if that fails it will try to connect to 11.0.0.1.
The answer to question 2 is no, unfortunately this type of information cannot be shared with other hosts. For security reasons the ASA will keep it to itself if they are configured as standalone units.
I hope that his answers your questions.
Have fun.
Raga