For the first part. No you don't want to disable AP Fallback. AP Fallback allows the AP to rejoin it's primary controller when it comes back online. If you disable it, when the primary comes online, it will not automatically move back.
As for the other question, if you lose three of your controllers at once, you could go into DNS or option 43, however you are directing your AP's to join a controller, and change that to different controller that is not overloaded on AP's yet.
HTH,
Steve
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